I know I recently said that saying ‘no’ is an essential practice for autism parents, and that you can pretty much say ‘no’ to everything except your family and what is most essential to your well-being.
But I want you to say ‘yes’, too. Practice saying ‘yes’ to what matters most. Practice saying ‘yes’ to affirm who you are and who you seek to become.
Here are some yeses to get you started.
Yes, you are going to make it.
Yes, it’s OK to take care of yourself.
Yes, it’s OK to hide in the bathroom and cry.
Yes, you will get up off the floor and keep moving.
Yes, you can ignore all the people who are critical of you and your parenting – even if you are related to them – because they are full of it.
Yes, you are afraid, and that’s normal.
Yes, everyone around you is afraid, too.
Yes, you are often odd, quirky, and a little weird. Yes, that’s endearing, and it’s why good people like you.
Yes, you can have an extra cookie. The world will not end.
Yes, you are not alone.
Yes, there are people out there who will help you.
Yes, you are fine the way you are.
Yes, you are an autism parent, and you are awesome.
And, yes, you can do this.