Thou art enough.
Thou shalt assume competence in thy children and everyone else’s.
Thou shalt seek out other autism parents in person, on Facebook, or wherever for support and community.
Thou shalt giveth thyself a break and accept that thou art human.
Thou shalt laugh at thyself. It shalt make you feel better.
Thou shalt ask questions. There art stupid questions in this world, but autism parents doth not asketh them.
Thou mayest feel what thou feelest. There art no shame in that.
Thou shalt celebrate thy children’s hard-earned achievements, no matter how small. However, if it involves doing the Riverdance, thou mighst want to closeth thy curtains.
Thou shalt be an advocate for thy children whilst knowing that we haveth thy back.
Thou shalt never give up.
There’s nothing ‘wrong’ with our child or yours. He or she may be struggling to overcome some or many things, but our children are perfect just as they are.
We are stronger together than we are alone. Let’s find each other, join up, and become even more unstoppable than we already are.
We will do what is necessary to help our child reach his or her full potential.
We know more about our child than anyone else. We will not blindly accept the judgments of others, no matter how ‘expert’ they may be.
We will, however, listen to advice given to us. We reserve the right to use it, adapt it to our needs, or ignore it and make fun of it.
We are perfectly fine with people asking us questions about our child and our experiences. We are all about raising awareness and being advocates.
We must learn from each other. There is a lot of information we can share, and we have a rich, diverse set of experiences. Learning this way is how we become better parents.
We will work to be OK with not being perfect. We will work to be OK with not being OK with not being perfect. Repeat.
People who stare at us in stores will get stared back at and judged.
You have our permission to say something sarcastic or be blatantly rude to anyone who makes an idiotic comment to you in public. Example: “No, I never thought about talking to my child more. We decided before we had children that we were all going to become mimes.”
Anyone who judges our children, says anything derogatory about them, or, God help them, makes fun of them will get their posterior kicked and their name taken. Once time travel is invented, we will go back in time and smack their parents, too. We are fiercely protective. Don’t mess with us. Seriously.
Parents who can affirm each other with all their flaws and foibles, and be supportive and understanding in the midst of all the emotions that come with this, are the best people we know. We love you!