[Thanks to Danette Schott at Help! S-O-S for Parents for including this as part of her February “Best of the Best” feature on school issues as they relate to invisible special needs! Go read all the great posts she’s collected this month from some top notch bloggers, and while you’re there check out the previous editions of “Best of the Best”.]
Getting to and from school has often been quite the adventure for us over the last three years. We’ve enjoyed mornings that are smooth as still water, and we’ve survived mornings that have involved broken objects, personal injuries, shot nerves, and crying from adult and child alike.
The uninformed masses have been known to ask what a ‘normal’ morning looks like for us. After I pick myself up off the floor from laughter, I might offer the response, “Normal is a dryer setting, and ours still leaves the clothes damp. But I can tell you what gets us out of the house in one piece more often than not though.”
Children like ours often find comfort and stability in routines, so try to keep things as predictable as you can in the mornings. Don’t overdo it, though, as you want your child to continue learning and practicing adaptability. However, always start from a place of trying to be understanding of their needs. What may seem trivial and annoying to us may mean the world to them. Consider all sides of the equation as you develop and adapt your routine.
If you currently don’t have much of a regular morning routine but you think this is even remotely possible for your family, work on developing one. (If y’all have newborn triplets, for example, you may be on your own.) Just remember that even a change from chaos is still change for our kids, so whatever you do, introduce a schedule at a pace that moves your family toward your goal without pushing too hard. It’ll be challenging enough at first, and your kids might react strongly, but stick with it. In the end, it’ll get better, and you’ll be glad you did it.