Probably a hundred times already today, and perhaps even just a second ago, you worried about what you could be doing.
You could be doing something on that to-do list that’s screaming at you. You could be making that call you need to make. You could be filling out that form that’s been sitting there for days. You could be doing more with your child. You could be doing that load of laundry or the dishes or any of a few dozen chores.
You could be eating better. You could be exercising. You could be more productive. You could be sleeping more. You could be more interesting. You could be doing as well as your friend who seems to have it all together.
You could spend less time on Facebook. You could spend less time keeping up with everyone else’s lives. You could be spending more time with the people you love. You could be worrying less.
You could forget, at least for a while, about all the things you have to do later. You could think less about the person you think you’re supposed to be. You could spend less time trying to be someone you’re not.
Or you could. just. stop.
Just stop and let this moment be enough.
There’s no perfect version of your life where you can or are doing all of these things. There never will be.
You’re finite. You’re flawed. You’re human. The reality is that you’re stuck with this. That’s just how it is.
But, much more importantly, you’re enough as you are, in spite of all this.
All these feelings of being finite, all these ‘flaws’, all this lack of perfection, all that is what makes you who you are. All your frustration at being this way is part of who you are, too.
You have plenty of practice judging yourself. And I’m sure that’s not working out too well for you. It’s sure not for me. We spend a lot of our moments giving our attention to what we could be or should be.
But the truth is, we just don’t have that many moments in this world. Things change quickly on us. Our kids grow up. Friends come and go. The people we love don’t live forever. Our moments are precious.
It’s unrealistic to think we can savor every one of them. Again, we aren’t perfect. Don’t try to be perfect at this either. But at least try sometimes to be attentive to a moment – one here, one there during your day – and let it be enough. They add up, and they matter.
You are enough. Let this moment be enough. If you forget, that’s fine. Be kind to yourself, then try to remember again.